Ah, hello! Welcome aboard. Welcome aboard the Good Ship Butterfly. And, for those of you who may not know what the butterfly is, perhaps you might want to check out some of our previous podcasts. Perhaps you may want to check out our Full-Impact Mindfulness logo – the butterfly starting in the darkness and exploding into light. Living a life out loud.
Oh. I’m sorry. I regret bumping into you. Oh, I think I recognize you. Yes, I do. My gosh. I think we used to work together didn’t we? Well, perhaps we did. So, let’s talk about our lives today. Let’s talk about acquaintances. Let’s talk about friends. And, let’s talk about life companions. Let’s talk about fully impacting your life. Let’s talk about participating in your life. Let’s talk about being alive and feeling the tingle and participating in your life through full-impact mindfulness.
Mike Sorg here, producer of Fishing Without Bait. Today, we went down to Black Star Tattoo in Belle Vernon, PA. And, we had a conversation while Jim was getting his new tattoo representing full-impact mindfulness. The following is a conversation that Jim had with Jake Steele, the artist working on his tattoo.
Oh, hi, Mike. We recently received some good news that our Fishing Without Bait logo is now a registered trademark of Namaste Holistic Counseling. However, I believe we’ve never really explored what holistic actually is defined as. What would your definition of holistic be?
You’re right on time, as usual. Of course. How could you not be, as it is always right now. Welcome to our adventure. Welcome to Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness. There are no entrance exams or letters of reference – other than referencing yourself. There are no tests, no comparisons with others. And, the only homework is to challenge yourself. If you’re finding life particularly heavy going, feeling loaded down, and if you’re restless, irritable, and discontent,
Ah. You’re right on time, as usual of course. As it is always right now. Welcome to our adventure. Welcome to Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness. There are no entrance exams or required letters of reference, only references for yourself. There are no tests. No comparisons with others. And, the only homework here is to challenge yourself. If you’re finding life particularly heavy going
Let’s make you think, Mr. Mike – and our listeners. You’re going to have to think today. Remember, these are challenge podcasts. So, let’s do our own time traveling, Mike, and go back to I double dog dare you podcasts. These podcasts are about straight talk. If you want to do something with your life, if you want to change it – to help yourself make better choices and live life out loud, then listen on. Our job is to not start the friendship club. Sometimes our job is to intentionally frustrate you – the listener, into action
Ah, you’re right on time. As usual. As it is always right now. Welcome to our adventure. Welcome to Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness. There are no entrance exams or letters of reference. There are no tests. No comparisons with others. And, the only homework is to challenge yourself. If you’re finding life particularly heavy going, feeling loaded down, and if you’re restless, irritable and discontent
What flag are you waving today? What’s outside? What’s outside of your home? What’s on your ship? What type of sports team do you follow? What is in your life? What are you looking for? We’re flying our flag today. We’re looking for logos. Flying your own flag.
Ah, so you’re here. And, as we greet you, we say Namaste. There’s many variations and meanings of Namaste, Mike. It actually comes from India. And, it’s an Indian way of greeting each other. It’s a way of showing homage and respect to one another. So, in some Indian cultures, particularly in the North and the South, they use Namaste as holding their elbows out, their palms together, first of all to their minds and to their hearts, greeting to someone. And, quite often it could have the meaning of literally that our minds meet.
Ah, welcome. Are you looking for the truth? Are you looking for somebody to tell you the truth? Perhaps you’ve heard of Diogenes who is the person who had the lamp and would go searching throughout the night. And, what he was searching for? He was searching for an honest man. He was searching for an honest person. So, is there honesty in your heart?
Ah. Who’s your neighbor? Who’s your neighbor, my friends? Welcome to Fishing Without Bait – a lifetime without definitive expectations. Where we ask you to avoid placing unrealistic expectations on yourself or attempting to live up to the unrealistic expectations of others. My name’s Jim Ellermeyer. I’m a behavioral health therapist
Woah. What’s that smell? Well, if you want to find out, you’ll have to listen on. Welcome aboard. You’ve reached the land of Fishing Without Bait, where we help people make choices in their lives, avoid time traveling. To create a life rather than find one. To look for rabbit holes and actually have the courage to go down them. So, buckle your seatbelts. Welcome aboard. And jump on the train.
Has anyone cracked your code? So, what does that mean to you? If you’ve listened to the previous podcast we’ve talked about creating passwords to prevent identity thefts from people stealing your identity or perhaps you even giving it away. So, when we talk about breaking your code, we’re talking about creating a code strong enough that others can’t penetrate your own boundaries into your authentic self.
What’s the password? Fortunately, there’s no password to gain entry here. It’s just a worm hole, a tunnel to the rest of your life. To the right here, and right now. If there are any words to gain entrance to our world – the world of Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness, they would be honesty, open-mindedness, and a willingness to try. There’s always room here. Always an empty seat.
Ah! Bucking broncos. Have you ever felt your thoughts were like that? Have you ever tried to put a saddle on them? Tame them? So, quite often we think we’re riding the horse. However, with our thoughts, they’re often riding us. And, like horses, they can be quite heavy. So, what are wild horses called? They’re called mustangs. And, they’re uncontrollable. Have you ever felt that your thoughts were also uncontrollable? Listen up, my friends. I’m so glad you’re here today. This is a podcast about Fishing Without Bait and full-impact mindfulness.
Use your voice. Speak the words out loud. Be an audio book for your life. Speak your intentions. Hold it. Hold the intention in your mind, and then laugh out loud. Smile. Envision it. And, repeat as necessary, placing an emotion – attach it to that intention will make it that much more powerful. So remember, your life is a result of the choices you make. If you don’t like your life, it’s time to start making better choices.
He was visited by the Ghost of Christmas Past, the Ghost of Christmas Present, and the Ghost of Christmas Future. And, in the future he was no longer in existence. He had crossed over. So, Scrooge got a second chance. We are perhaps not so fortunate. And, again, this is about being right here and right now. I would like you to imagine two scenarios: one where your life – your physical life has ended and the values that you have and what you hope to be remembered by; I would also like you to think of what you would be afraid that people would mention about you, what you would be concerned about.
So, Mike, there’s a missive from Hugh McLaughlin, and he explains prayer as people say prayers not just because or hoping to get an omnipotent deity to intervene directly on our behalf but because it also helps us concentrate our minds on the stuff that actually matters, whether we believe or don’t believe in God or Buddha or the Gray-Bearded Sky Fairy, it is still very good to help us pray to the deepest part of ourselves, of our own lives. So, Mike, keeping in mind that we’re spiritual beings having a human experience, prayer – which you can think of as merely connection and meditation, looking for the space between thoughts. When you think of prayer, what do you think of, Mike?
Destructive anger is cruel. Destructive anger is hurtful. It causes harm. Destructive anger turned inward can result in self harm or substance use, acting out toward others in an unhealthy way. It’s reacting with your emotional mind – where we react rather than respond. So, we have every right to be angry, Mike. However, we never have a right to be cruel – never. We never have a right to be cruel. So, that’s one emotion that is to be avoided. One that is never constructive.
What we’re asking people to do is be mindful of their time. And, when you’re performing some type of activity – when you’re having a thought, when you’re having some type of behavior, you’re spending your time like currency. When you’re planning to make a major purchase – let’s say, like a television. Would you say okay, let’s go to Best Buy, and you’d buy the first TV you see?
o, let’s talk about that fear and the importance of letting it go and allowing miracles to go. So, again, let’s talk about the fear and the importance of letting it go and allowing miracles to occur. Giving permission for things to happen in our life, Mike. Fear is having that belief. Having faith in catastrophic or negative outcomes. And, remember, faith is nothing more than belief in something you don’t understand. Does anyone really understand fear, Mike?
Keep in mind that values can be fluctuating throughout your life. And, they can be flexible. However, what we certainly want to do is to define core values. Core values are something that do not change. Core values are choices that you made in your life and how you desire to live your life. How you wish to have others perceive you. Do you have a desire to have others view you as trustworthy?
Given the outcry, I wanted to use this opportunity to respond to these people asking me, “How could this happen? Why do people let this happen? I’m so afraid. I’m so concerned about life and how things are going to turn out in my world and the world of others.”
And, I looked at him, and I said I have nothing. You have everything. And, that man looked at me and put his hand on my shoulder. And, again, he smiled. And, he said I have a wonderful life. I hope you will, too. The man didn’t have a belt on. He didn’t have socks on, and I never saw him again.
So, I had another episode and was in another place. And, apparently I was called down to the – what I would call the head shed, yet once again because my roommate thought I was disturbed. Imagine that. He was in the same place I was. He thought I was disturbed because I knew – having gone to some 12-step meetings, that I knew enough to pray.
During my early childhood and teenage years, I spent an enormous amount of time with my father and grandfather. In addition to the farms, my grandfather owned several apartment buildings in Kittanning. My father, as the eldest male, felt he had to be overseer – which meant as next in line, and volunteered to be handyman.
So, however, I was thinking as this is our 60th podcast – I was thinking, not that we’re becoming stale or out of date – in fact, I believe we’re picking up steam, getting into fully impacting people’s lives, spreading those wings, getting out of that darkness and spreading technicolor into your life. Participating and grabbing life. I
Open-mindedness is being willing rather than willful. Willful is being judgmental. Willful is not being honest. Willful is having the expert’s mind. And, remember, the expert’s mind is like a thoroughbred horse – a magnificent creature, however, with a singleness of focus, and wears blinders, being disengaged from life.
Let’s talk about some unwelcome passengers. Let’s remember, Mike, when we’re dealing with full-impact mindfulness we’re confronting these unruly passengers – these perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and emotions that we really don’t know how they got on the bus in the first place. Mike, with full-impact mindfulness there’s no more avoidance. There’s no more pretending that it’s not there.